Circles create a space to pause

We talk (and write) about “circles” quite a bit at Precious Blood Ministry of Reconciliation. This restorative justice practice originates from indigenous communities around the world. For most in the general public, circles are associated with conflict resolution (addressing harm) and processing grief. While we often employ circles in these difficult situations, there are less dramatic yet equally important applications for circles, like staff meetings and community building among neighbors. The circle process provides a framework for people to gather in a space where authentic communication can take place.  

We live in a culture focused on tasks, deadlines, and results. Even at ministry sites like PBMR, we aren’t immune to the pressures to get things done. In the circle, however, we are invited to pause. Circles create spaces for all voices to be heard, relationships to form or deepen, and consensus to be reached. You can’t easily rush a circle, and you can’t hide in a circle very well either (I know, I’ve tried). I’ve come to realize that the things that are the most important take time. Change takes time. Seeing another person’s perspective takes time. Tackling complex problems like injustice, navigating grief, and forming a group of individuals into a community all take time.  

Scan the news on any given day, and it becomes pretty evident we are facing some big challenges. We need to make the time to really listen to one another and find solutions that are lasting and just. In a recent reflection titled “Demonizing Keeps Us From Solutions,” Fr. Dave Kelly, C.PP.S. writes:   

“It seems that during these times, both in our nation and in our world, we need to reflect upon the notion that we belong to one another. That harm to one is a harm to all of us. We need to stop demonizing one another and come up with solutions.”  

Circles may not solve all the problems in the world, but the process provides practical ways to pause, to listen, to learn, and seek solutions together. In circle, it’s easy to see that we do in fact belong to one another.  

Nick Schafer, PBMR Director of Mission Advancement 

To learn more about the restorative justice practice of circles and to read Fr. Kelly’s full reflection, “Demonizing Keeps Us From Solutions,” visit www.pbmr.org.